Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Church Is A Team Sport (A Collection of Quotes)


Several years ago, I came across a book called Church is a Team Sport. Written by Jim Putman, it was essentially a mashup of church philosophy and ministry memoirs. I didn't finish it, because it slowed a bit in the middle, but I really enjoyed the beginning.
(I've noticed over time that many books start great, but fizzle in the middle and at the end. I think it's because the author puts their great idea out there, explains it and then has to create enough filler stuff to get the publishing houses to bite. Like sermons, books should be short and to the point. That said, it could also be a me-problem. Maybe I just have too short an attention span)
I wrote down some of my favorite quotes from the book, and recently came across them. I'm always interested in thinking about how to be a better team builder, so I re-read them. I figured you might enjoy some of these also:
  • "When I speak of church, I mean a body of believers working as individuals and together as a team to achieve the Lord's goals."
  • "some say, 'Well then, a small group can be a church.' I agree, it can be, but a lot of small groups working together with accountability, organization, and good coaching can do more for the kingdom than one small group can. A team of focused and organized people in a local area can do something together for and with God that could not be done as individuals or even as a small group."
  • "Either Jesus is a liar because the gates of hell are prevailing against the church. Or...the church that is being prevailed against isn't Jesus' church at all. Jesus did not promise that the gates of hell would not prevail against a church but that it would not be able to stop His church."
  • "As a result of a pastor's 'show' mentality, many Christians have come to believe their job is to attend the show."
  • "When the paid-player mentality guides the church, everything becomes a show... So the answer is to pay big money for franchise players who will give a great performance that will draw the thousands of kids and youth in their area. They scour the land to steal a great player from another team, while their best players are being scouted as well."
  • "if you love your people and help them grow in their relationship with Jesus and help them find relationships with others on your team, people will put up with less because they know they are loved."
  • "God's idea of a coach is one who creates a system that develops people into great players."
  • "A pastor can't do everything, but his responsibility is to make sure all the positions on the team are filled."
  • "Churches often have stated goals but behaviors that circumvent or work against them. For instance, we might say we want to reach the world, but we do things that keep us from being in contact with the world we want to reach. We plan an outreach, but it is really designed to attract people who already think like us (other believers). We don't know how to relate to lost folks, so we pray and expect that God will bring them to us."
  • "Remember the church grows by word of mouth. No one will bring people to something that will embarrass them."
  • "To create an effective environment, you have to break down every part of what you do and ask some important questions: Is this biblical? Will this move someone to where we want to take them next? Is this as relational as we can make it? Is this relevant and applicable to life? The answers to these questions depend on your target audience."
If you want to read the whole book, it's available on Amazon. Click here.

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

11 Surefire Principles To Help You Seize The Day

A checklist can never guarantee a successful life. Too many unexpected things can happen. However, a set of principles by which you live can go a long way in helping you make the most of cards you are dealt. The following principles are all ACTIONS you should take every day. They are based on true statements about the nature of life. Live out these principles to take responsibility and seize control of your own life.

  • Your decisions have consequences. Don't be impulsive.
  • Danger exists. Think before you act.
  • You cannot control some things. Relax.
  • You can control some things. Work hard.
  • You don't have all the answers. Listen to others.
  • You cannot solve everything today. Be patient.
  • You need to solve some things today. Be decisive.
  • It's okay to be afraid. Don't let fear stop you.
  • It's okay to have regrets. Don't let regrets hold you back.
  • You don't need everything you want. Learn contentment.
  • Be grateful. Treat everyone with respect. Give more than you get.

Monday, July 6, 2015

Don't Be Stupid: Embrace Correction


Don't Be Stupid. Allow people to correct you.
“Whoever corrects a mocker invites insult; whoever rebukes a wicked man incurs abuse. Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man and he will love you. (Proverbs 9:7,8)
What is your first reaction when someone suggests you have done something wrong? Do you argue? Become defensive? Pout? Or do you give them a hug?
It is very difficult to respond well to a person who corrects you. Even if we know they love us (and if we know they are right), it still hurts to feel we don’t measure up. Ironically, most of us regularly acknowledge that we are sinful people who have missed the mark God set for us. Yet, for some reason we are often more sensitive to the suggestion that we fall short of other’s standards than we are about falling short of the God's standard.
The Mocker
Four main characters play the starring roles in the book of Proverbs. The wise man, the simple man, the fool, and the mocker are symbolic figures who serve as representatives of different types of people and/or four behaviors to which we all are prone. Of these four, the mocker is the “villain”. According to Proverbs, the mocker should be punished, ignored, and “driven out”. One verse even suggests that God laughs at the proud mocker. Of all the wicked characters in the Bible, the mocker is one of the worst.
In Proverbs 9, the mocker is identified by his reaction to correction. His response is violent. He insults, abuses, and hates anyone who suggests he has done something wrong. Proverbs doesn’t paint a very pretty picture of the mocker, but it might be a fairly accurate picture of our response to correction.

Criticism

No one likes to be criticized. No one likes to be confronted. No one ever wants to be told they are not good enough or that they have missed he mark. However, our response to criticism (even when it may not be warranted), is a demonstration of our wisdom or lack thereof. Criticism is, then, an opportunity for growth; but only if we choose to use it well.

The Wise Man

It’s actually very simple. Love the people who criticize you. Welcome correction. Allow confrontation to shape you not to anger you. View criticism as a growth stimulant. Choose to appreciate those who correct you.
"Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid." (Proverbs 12:1)
Reacting in anger to those who confront you is stupid. Don’t be stupid.

Monday, June 29, 2015

Begin With The End In Mind


One of Stephen Covey's basic principles is, "Begin with the end in mind." Most areas of your life would exhibit significant growth if you applied this principle.

Why wouldn't you want to apply this concept spiritually as well?

What is the end for Christians? It is living in the presence of God our Father for eternity. Happily, a sliver of that future reality is available today for us as our Father has sent the Spirit to be present with us. Let that sink in. God is present with with you today. How does that impact the next thing on your todo list?
Another way to "begin with the end in mind" is to consider that an end goal for all Christians should be to look like Jesus. If that is the end you desire, what will you do today to bring it to pass? Does your calendar reflect your desire to look like Christ? Does your bank statement demonstrate your efforts and investments in Christ-like behavior?
What you do; how you plan; where you spend your money; and the way you use your time are all accurate depictions of your end goal. What do these things tell you about your own end-goals?

BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

Monday, June 8, 2015

How One Golf Shot Changed My Understanding of the Christian Life


The toughest shots are opportunities for great success
A few years ago I was playing a rare round of golf. Because I’m no Tiger Woods (in more ways than one, I guess), I was able to see much more of the golf course than most.

At one point, I found myself off the fairway and behind a few trees. About 15 yards ahead of me was an opening of about ten feet which provided a much more exciting (albeit perhaps not as wise) option than a safe sideways punchout to the fairway.

Don’t Be Distracted By Danger In The Distance

Remembering a trick someone had taught me many years ago, I stood behind my ball and drew an imaginary line from the opening directly to my ball. Then I located a small stick which lay immediately on top of the imaginary line approximately two feet in front of my ball. I locked my eyes on the stick and moved into my address position beside the ball.

From that moment on, I did not look up to see where my ball would lie. Instead, I focused all my energy on being certain I hit the ball directly over the stick.

It worked. Because I was able to hit my ball over a target just two feet away, my shot continued on the right path for many yards. The ball soared out of the woods and came to rest in the fairway just short of the green (what happened after that is insignificant to this story).

Here’s the lesson. Too often we paralyze ourselves with fear because of all the potential danger we see looming in the distance. Rather than focusing on what is right in front of us, we worry about the future, and end up making poor decisions.

Focus On Your 2 Foot Step, Not Your 2 Mile Journey

Psalms says God’s Word is a flashlight for our feet and a lantern for the path. The idea is that we can rely on God’s Word to illuminate the immediate circumstances in our lives, to help us make the right decisions right now. Even if we can’t see the future clearly, we can be certain that if we follow God’s Word today, it will guide us to where we need to be tomorrow.

If you walk through the woods at night with your flashlight focused on the tree 50 yards away, you’ll probably trip over the root right in front of you. If you walk through life with your eyes focused on the danger which lies weeks ahead, you’ll probably trip over the the temptation right in front of you.

Walk With God

Yesterday we talked in church about walking with God. It’s easy to walk by yourself. You can walk as fast or as slow as you want. When you walk with someone else, though, you have to pay attention to their speed. You have to match their stride. The reward for your effort is the opportunity to grow your relationship with the person walking beside you. A walk is an opportunity to talk, to connect, to get on the same page.

God wants us to walk with Him. He wants us to take every step as if He is right beside us… because He is.


Don’t worry about the steps you’ll take next week or next month or next year. Simply pay attention to your life’s next step. Don’t let your fear of tomorrow impede your focus on doing right today.

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Here's A Protest And A Campaign I Could Really Get Behind

It cost too much, but the
inspiration was priceless
I might have discovered my special purpose.

I was sipping a s’more frappuccino (which I hadn’t had before and which I found to be just okay), hanging out with Marianne and Emma when I saw a storefront across the street that called to mind visions of pro-life protestors at an abortion clinic. We don’t see them as much anymore (I think the government has clamped down on them), but maybe we could recall their movement just for a moment.

Operation Save-A-Life

I know that’s not a real name. At least I don’t think it is. But you know what it might look like. Lots of people marching in front of an abortion clinic. Carrying big signs, sometimes chanting or singing. They approach young, scared girls and seek to convince them (either through dialogue or literature) not to end their child’s life. Those who show interest are offered “crisis-pregnancy” counseling. For the few who choose to keep their children, systems are in place to provide them the parenting resources they need or to help them find adoptive parents.

It’s a noble pursuit, but it is not often successful. Some wonder if it might be time for a new approach. But this post isn’t about abortion at all. It’s about another evil being foisted on our society by some. This evil literally enslaves people and their families in a cycle of destruction that may not be escaped for generations.

I’m talking about payday loans.

Freedom for Captives

Jesus quoted Isaiah, saying that as the Messiah, one of his priorities was to bring freedom to the captives. This was not just spiritual captivity, Jesus also sought to free people from oppression and control whenever he could.

His followers also embraced this pursuit. The early Christians often pooled their resources to redeem slaves and set them free. Paul told Philemon that he expected him to treat his slave Onesimus as a brother (in other words, set him free).

How then should we respond to the modern phenomenon of payday loan corporations which essentiall enslave people. They do not chain them or kidnap them, but through easily available loans and impossible interest rates they place the desperate (and often their families) into life-long servitude.

According to the PEW research group: 
The chains of impossible interest
  • Twelve million American adults use payday loans annually. On average, a borrower takes out eight loans of $375 each per year and spends $520 on interest. 
  • Lenders usually charge about $15 per $100 borrowed per two weeks (391 percent Annual Percentage Rate or APR). 
  • 69 percent used it to cover a recurring expense, such as utilities, credit card bills, rent or mortgage payments, or food. 
  • Payday loans are due in full on the borrower’s next payday; yet if the borrower cannot pay off the full loan plus interest, she pays a fee to extend the due date, or pays back the loan but quickly takes out a new one to cover other expenses. The loans do not amortize, so this payment does not reduce the loan principal owed. For example, a person who borrows $400 for a $60 fee for two weeks would have paid approximately $480 in fees after renewing the loan for four months, but would still owe the original $400.

Jesus’ Kind of Protest

Jesus would be angry about this. I'm pretty sure Jesus is angry about this.

Remember when He threw over the tables in the temple and drove people out with a whip? Those were the payday loan sharks of his day. Jewish people would travel great distances to worship in the temple, but the “religious leaders” declared nothing could be sacrificed that wasn’t purchased in Jerusalem. Since these men had a corner on the sacrificial market, they could charge whatever they wanted.

And they did. They preyed on the desperation of others to amass great fortune for themselves. Jesus shut them down.

I think Jesus would like us to shut these money changers down. I think maybe we can learn how to do it from our pro-life cousins.

Who’s In?

I see three critical elements necessary to make this work: 
  1. loving protest 
  2. immediate assistance 
  3. ongoing mentoring


I’m not sure sign boards and picket lines are the ideal vehicle to bring the payday loan industry to its knees. Furthermore, I’m not convinced someone seeking a payday loan would be inclined to speak with a sign-waving protestor. But perhaps they would give an ear to someone who gently approached them just before they entered the store. Your presence will likely be far more effective than your picket.

We need a protest of presence, not another picket line

When someone arrives at a payday loan store, it doesn’t matter why they need money. Whatever tough luck they’ve experienced, whatever bad choices they’ve made are in the past. At that moment, they’ve decided to turn to their last resort; and unless someone intervenes, they will mortgage their future to salvage their present. For this reason, any attempt to help this person must include an offer of immediate assistance. Whether you offer them the full amount they need, partial assistance or sit down with them to find other creative solutions; to not meet their pressing need is to force them into that store and into the cycle of financial slavery.

The vast majority of people who visit a payday loan store once, will visit again. Even if you bail someone out once, odds are, they’ll be back if something doesn’t change in their life. More than any gift of cash or credit, what that person needs is someone who will enter into their life and provide ongoing financial mentoring. Whether you connect them with a class, introduce them to a counselor or take on the role yourself; this is the level at which true lasting change happens. Mentoring is the escape hatch from the downward spiral of financial crisis.

Are you in?

Here’s your checklist: 
  • Recruit friends to join you in front of a payday loan store once per month (down the road you can go more often or share the load with others) 
  • Raise enough funds that you’ll be able to provide people with daily necessities if you have opportunity (be prepared to partner with local food pantries or other services if possible) 
  • Find a financial mentoring curriculum you can use with those who are willing (Dave Ramsey’s material will work as will Crown Financial. Use something simpler if you have access or can create your own). 
  • Set a date when your team will hold their first “Protest via Presence”. 
  • Choose a location. Do some research and find out where the busy payday loan stores are (have a backup plan in case you are asked/forced to leave) 
  • Go (don’t carry cash. If you have opportunity to talk with someone, have them meet you somewhere else. You don’t want to foolishly open yourself to harm) 
  • Here’s your opening line if you need one: “hi friend, before you go in there would you be willing to consider some alternative financial solutions? I have some resources at my disposal and I’d love to see if I can help.



Send me a message if you’re ready to go

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Is Door to Door Evangelism The Church's Best Idea Ever?

Matthew, Mark and Luke all record a story of Jesus sending out His followers with instructions to spread His good news. Each time, the details of his instructions differed slightly but one element always remained the same.


Matthew 10:11 says: “Whatever town or village you enter, search there for some worthy person and stay at their house until you leave.”

Mark 6:10 says: “Whenever you enter a house, stay there until you leave that town.”

Luke 5:5–7 says: “When you enter a house, first say, ‘Peace to this house.’ If someone who promotes peace is there, your peace will rest on them; if not, it will return to you. Stay there, eating and drinking whatever they give you, for the worker deserves his wages. Do not move around from house to house.”

The principle is very clear. Find a house. Stay there.

I don’t think this negates the efforts of those who evangelize door to door or those who engage in street preaching. I do think we should recognize that those methods are not necessarily the primary evangelistic method recommended by Jesus.

Jesus’ Plan for Sharing the Gospel

Jesus wanted his followers to meet people and develop relationships with them. He wanted his followers to share their life with people, to eat with them, to enjoy time with them. He wanted his followers to engage the highs and lows of life with people; to work through the regular struggles of every relationship. Very clearly Jesus told his followers, “Don’t move from house to house.”
Sadly, the longer they are part of a church, most Christians gradually lose all contact with the outside world. They fill their lives by going house to house with other Christians. There are few or no persons of peace in their life which means they have few or no opportunities to share the Gospel with those who most need it. This was not Jesus’ plan.

Find a Person of Peace


I wonder how difficult it would be to find a person of peace today? Who is that one person with whom I can build a relationship? Who is that one person who will welcome me into their life even though they may not share my beliefs? How might that relationship change me? How might it change them? How might it change the world?

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

5 Character Traits of Successful People

How do you measure success?

If you are chasing material gains, accumulation of wealth and property, fame or accolades of those around you; you might not ever be successful. You cannot necessarily control all the factors required to achieve these goals.

But if success means loving relationships, peace and calm, ongoing contentment or a sense of fulfillment; success is not out of reach for you. Proverbs has much to say about living a successful life. Today, I grabbed five ideas about success from Proverbs 12.

FIVE CHARACTER TRAITS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE:

They are teachable
"To learn you must love discipline, it is stupid to hate correction." (Proverbs 12:1)
Everyone makes mistakes, everyone is wrong sometimes. True friends will correct you and set you on the right path. But if you aren't willing to be corrected, you'll never grow as a person.
They work hard
"A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies has no sense." (Proverbs 12:11)
"Winning the lottery" is not a formula for success. Hard work might not lead to obscene riches; however, hard work will keep food on your table and a roof over your head. If you spend your whole life comparing yourself to others and wishing you could have what they have, you'll wind up poor. You'll have no sense, and no cents.
They listen well
"Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others." (Proverbs 12:15)
No one knows everything. We all have much to learn if we are willing to listen. Even people who we perceive as less than impressive may have valuable lessons to teach us if we will hear what they have to say. Those who grow are always widening their knowledge base. The best way to do that is to listen to as many people as possible.
They tell the truth
"Truthful words stand the test of time, but lies are soon exposed." (Proverbs 12:19)
The hidden secrets of those who bend, twist and otherwise modify the truth are eventually revealed. Throughout history, many have climbed high on the scaffolds of lies, only to fall far when their false words collapse underneath them. No matter how difficult it may be in the moment, future success is the result of telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
They are optimistic 
"Worry weighs a person down; an encouraging word cheers a person up. (Proverbs 12:25)
Underachievers spend a great deal of time worrying about things they cannot even control. Successful people focus on what they can control, and they find positives in every situation. Learn to view people in the best light possible; assume their motives are good; believe a good outcome is around the corner. Choose to bring light rather than darkness into the world.

Sunday, May 10, 2015

10 Things I Want My Children To Know About Life

On May 10, it seems fitting to publish 10 Proverbs from Proverbs 10. These particular wisdom sayings are each lessons I want my children to live by.


10 PROVERBS FOR MY CHILDREN

  1. Tainted wealth has no lasting value, but right living can save your life.
  2. Lazy people are soon poor; hard workers get rich.
  3. The wise are glad to be instructed, but babbling fools fall flat on their faces.
  4. People who wink at wrong cause trouble, but a bold reproof promotes peace.
  5. Wise people treasure knowledge, but the babbling of a fool invites disaster.
  6. People who accept discipline are on the pathway to life, but those who ignore correction will go astray.
  7. Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.
  8. Lazy people irritate their employers, like vinegar to the teeth or smoke in the eyes.
  9. The way of the LORD is a stronghold to those with integrity, but it destroys the wicked.
  10. The mouth of the godly person gives wise advice, but the tongue that deceives will be cut off.

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

The eHarmony Model for Church

Several years ago, a dating web-site ran a commercial offering five matches for those who signed up for the first time. When we first saw this commercial, Marianne astutely pointed out, "They must not have much confidence in their process if they are giving you FIVE matches..."

I immediately thought that this was a wonderful demonstration of the way some people view church.

Eharmony is built on the idea that their thorough analysis of every person almost always leads to compatible relationships. Unfortunately, from time to time they discover people for whom they don't have a match. Rather than suggest a match which falls below their standards, they choose to apologize to that person and say, "We can't hook you up right now."

Apparently, other dating sites take a different approach. They have the philosophy that if they throw you into as large a pool of people as possible,  you're certain to find a match. Unfortunately, a lot of people spend a lot of time pursuing a lot of relationships with a lot of people with whom they DON'T have a lot in common. The more unfortunate result is that a lot more feelings get hurt and a lot more people are rejected by actual people they have invested themselves in (rather than a computer with whom they have no relationship).



I see a lot of churches that take the second approach. They create as many programs and "ministries" as they can, trying to meet the needs of every niche market that might possibly exist. Unwilling to ever say "no" to anything, they continue to multiply activity and in the end the real point of church is lost as people come to understand the "church" as a place that is made for THEM to have THEIR NEEDS met. And if the church doesn't meet their needs, they move on.

I don't think the church should ever reject anyone (so that's where the analogy with eharmony kind of breaks down). But what I really like about Eharmony's philosophy is that they are able and willing to maintain their standards and their singular focus, even if it might offend people. I would love to see more churches who were willing to say, "We're about worshiping God and making disciples, period." Of course what every church would say that. But to really mean it, the church needs to be willing to say, "So if the most important thing to you is something other than that, you'll need to look elsewhere."

I'm not saying that all the other things churches do (potlucks, sports leagues, scrapbooking, super bowl parties, etc.) are bad. In fact, many of these things are helpful and can really meet the some of the needs people feel. BUT THEY SHOULD NEVER DISTRACT FROM THE MOST IMPORTANT THING.

If people within the church do these "extra" things and make them happen, great! As long as it isn't at the expense of the true focus of the church and as long as there isn't an expectation that these activities are tied to the identity of the church. The singular focus of the church must always be on Christ and pointing people to Him.

All that to say... I don't think it's such a bad thing that EHarmony rejects people. In fact, I think it's a good thing. And if I were single, and looking for a dating service, I'd pick Eharmony because of their demonstrated commitment to doing what they do well.

I await the angry comments from scrapbookers...

Monday, May 4, 2015

Harmony Is Impossible Without Diversity


Christ came to restore man’s fellowship with God. His death provided the necessary atonement to bridge the gap, and thus upon his return to heaven, he sent the Holy Spirit to begin gathering a people who would fellowship with God through the sacrifice of Christ. Of course, we call these gathered people "THE CHURCH!"
Fellowship is central to God’s story and to the formation of the church. It should not surprise us that the very first time the followers of Christ gathered together, the central theme was fellowship. More appropriately, we could say the central theme was a “SHARED PASSION” which united them in true fellowship.
Acts 1:14 says, “they all joined together constantly in prayer…”
The word “together” is the focal point as it describes not just their activity, but the nature of their activity. The idea being communicated is that these people had “one shared passion”. They were joined together by the thing about which they were most passionate.
Have you ever thought about what passions drive you? In most churches, many of the passions driving people are very rarely shared, and when they are, those passions are more likely something beyond the church and God (sports, hunting, music, crafts, family, etc…).
While our shared passion for Christ and the lost is the glue that holds us together. We should remember that sharing a passion does not mean we must share everything else. There is much room in God's tent for us to share our passion with others and still have many differences.
Acts 1:14 points out the “glue” that held the early church together (their shared passion) and it also describes the unique make-up of this group of Jesus people.
  • First, in verse 13, are listed the 11 remaining apostles.
  • Then in verse 14, we are told that they were joined by the women, by Mary, and by his brothers.
  • Verse 15 tells us there were approximately 120 people.
This group is unique because of their diversity. Many in the group were Galileans and fishermen. However, also there were also city-folk and even powerful, wealthy people like Nicodemus and Joseph of Arimathea. This diversity even existed among the twelve disciples (Simon the Zealot, Peter the fisherman, Matthew the tax-collector).
This group is also unique because of the importance given to women. It was not common in those days for women to receive equal billing with men, yet Luke (the author) makes it clear that the women mentioned were equal contributing members of this gathering.
We cannot look at a verse without recognizing the clear encouragement to embrace our diversity, to reject oppression, and to engage in active fellowship with all people who make the body of Christ. Remember Paul’s words in Galatians, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Whatever differences you may have with another believer, the one thing you share (Jesus) is far more powerful!