Where Do You Look for Help When It Seems God Isn't Paying Attention?

Psalm 121:4:

Behold, he who keeps Israel

will neither slumber nor sleep

If you've ever had a difficult day, or week, or month, or year; you know that it can't be hard to find comfort in words like Psalm 121:1-2. These verses were made famous by the Von Trapp family, "I lift my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth."

You might read those verses and say, "Great. But I don't have any hills to look up to, and I don't feel like anyone is coming to help." We can't all be Maria. We don't all stumble into the perfect family and the perfect solution for our problems.

So, what do you do? How do you find hope, when all you see in front of you is despair?

This morning I stumbled out of verses 1 and 2, sidestepped verse 3 and then got tackled by verse 4.

Indeed, He who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep

Look! Israel's protector does not sleep or slumber!

Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep.

Get it?

This was written thousands of years ago. It was written during a pretty good time in Israel's history. They had warrior-kings who were expanding their kingdoms. They were united. They were free.

Then stuff happened.

A civil war divided the kingdom forever.
Evil kings oppressed and enslaved the people.
Conquering hoards from far away lands leveled cities and carried away captives
The holy city and the temple were destroyed
The Assyrians, the Babylonians, the Persians, the Greeks, the Ptolemies, the Syrians and the Romans ruled Israel. Each, more oppressive than the other.
The Romans wiped the nation from the earth.
For nearly 2000 years, Israel had no home.
The Muslims and the Turks and the Crusaders plundered the land.
The Holocaust.

and still...  Israel survives.

Over the course of time, many people groups have been wiped from the earth. No nation, no ethnic group, no people should ever survive what Israel has been through.

But he who is watching over Israel never closes His eyes.

God watches over His people. We may not always get the rescue we expect, when we expect it. We may not always receive the precise solution for which we pray. We may not even feel like looking to the hills for help...

But God is watching. He does not sleep.

He who watches over Israel, who has watched over Israel, is also watching you.

Do You Have A Talking Problem?

I recently read somewhere that if you can't go an entire day without saying something negative about another person, then you have a problem.

Imagine someone says, "I like to drink, but I don't have a drinking problem."

You might ask, "How often do you drink?"
If they respond that they cannot go a day without drinking, you might suggest that they do indeed have a drinking problem.

Consider the person who says they never go a day without getting angry at least once. Would you recommend anger management?

So then...

If a day never passes in which you don't say at least one negative thing about one other person; do you have a "negative speech" problem?

I do.

Remember what James said. "And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself." (James 3:6)

He also said, "For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way." (James 3:2)

I like to think of myself as being somewhat self-disciplined. I like to think I avoid addictive practices and behaviors that will control me. So, even though a lot is percolating in my mind regarding events of the past few days... Tonight, I'm going to be slow to speak.

5 Things Every Christian Can DO In Response to the Syrian Refugee Crisis

Since I already stuck my nose in this, I thought I'd follow up last night's thoughts with a more practical post.

Vast amounts of bandwidth have been used in recent days as American Christians debate what other people (namely the government) should do in response to the Syrian refugee crisis. I am fascinated by the intensity of outrage some direct toward others because of their opinion about what someone else should or should not do.

Realistically, most of us have little to no impact on what our country will do in response to this crisis. So where our national policy finally lands seems like a really silly thing to get angry about.

This comes back to a simple principle I express quiet often. "Don't allow the things you cannot control to control you." You cannot control what the Senate, the House or the President does. So don't allow their actions to control your behavior or your relationships. Instead, consider these five things EVERY CHRISTIAN CAN DO in response to the Syrian refugee crisis:

1. Pray for the refugees. My cousin-in-law who lives in Greece wrote the following, "As someone who is watching these refugees arrive 'live' here in Athens, Greece, I can tell you confidently those arriving here are not strong, healthy men ready for war. These are broken and helpless people arriving traumatized and with nothing... we see many women and children sleeping on pieces of cardboard throughout our city and in desperate need." Whether or not there are terrorists among their midst, many of these people are in desperate need. Pray for them.

2. Pray for your government officials. This is not a simple situation. There is not a clear answer. Those in power must find a balance between compassion, and safety and they must do it in a timely manner with an eye on our own country's resources. They need Gods wisdom. Pray they receive it.

3. Support an organization that is currently assisting refugees. The Nazarene Fund is one place to donate. There are many others as well. Just google "assist with Syrian refugees". You'll find a place you can make a donation.

4. Bake cookies for your neighbor. Seriously. In all the talk about loving our neighbor, let's not forget to do that as literally as possible. Love your neighbor.

5. Clean out your closet. There are people in your city who are in similarly dire straights as the refugees. Heroin, human trafficking, homelessness and other "Giants of Despair" are wreaking havoc especially as the winter rolls in. Find a local shelter, contact them to see what they need and then clean out your closet. Don't just get rid of your old stuff. Give away your best stuff if that's what they need. No one wants just the muffin stump.

There are likely many other things you can DO during this time. At risk of speaking harshly... if you aren't willing to do some of these things, maybe you could just stop talking about the crisis all together. If you aren't taking action, you obviously don't mean it.

Let's all try not to be quite so outraged, let's cast a few stones fewer. As the great country singer once said, "A little less talk and a lot more action!"

About the Syrian Refugees: It's more complicated than you're saying it is

I've watched for the past couple days as the Starbucks cup outrage has been replaced by refugee rage. I'm sure by next week, the outrage will have moved along. Frankly, I'm a little surprised so many people are so focused on the refugee issue this quickly after the Russian plane, Lebanon bombings and Parisian terrorism. The refugee question is really not connected to these occasions of terrorism. (I know it seems like it, but it really isn't)

Anyway, I've been wrestling with this for a couple days and feel like I might as well throw some thoughts out. More than anything else, I hope anyone who reads this can recognize that I'm calling for EVERYONE to think through this a little bit more. There are lots of sides to this issue, and not all of them line up neatly into one concise talking point.

 So, here are 8 things I think about the stuff I see going on around me...

1. God loves a cheerful giver. When we use the gifts God has given us to help those in our spheres of influence, we are exercising generosity. When the government becomes the agent of generosity, they rob the individual of freely and cheerfully choosing to give. I know for some, this may not make sense; but the greater the tax burden imposed, the less opportunity for true generosity. Spending government money isn't always the BEST way to exhibit generous behavior.
2. Loving our neighbor doesn't mean the same thing in every situation. I try to love my neighbor. We give a lot away, but we don't give the same to everyone we help. Sometimes we might give someone a couple bucks one time to help them out. Sometimes we might give away a large gift card that will last a couple weeks. Sometimes we help people make changes in their lives over a significant portion of time. In every situation, we try to wisely assess the situation and don't assume our first idea is the best idea. Just because someone wants to slow down and assess a situation doesn't mean they're unloving. They might just be wise.
3. The God-given obligations to those who govern are unique. God's expectation of civic leaders is that they punish wrong-doing and reward those who do good. Those who suggest it is not the place of Christians to seek revenge are right. However, it is the place of government to meet out punishment to those who do evil.
4. One cannot give what one does not have. No matter how much compassion you might have, you cannot give cash to someone if you don't have any. Governments can always print new money or deficit spend until the cows come home; but at some point these policies will create even bigger problems than we have right now. The cost involved in any humanitarian effort MUST be offset by a cut in spending somewhere else.
5. It is possible to love the displaced AND not want our government to intervene. Did you know that Glenn Beck (yes, that Glenn Beck) has raised $12 million and has mobilized thousands of people to help resettle refugees from the middle east? He is clearly acting lovingly toward those people AND he does not want our government to bring in refugees right now.
6. Some people are putting forth creative ideas for directing our compassion. Shipping people thousands of miles across the sea might not be the BEST thing for them. An Egyptian telecom mogul is trying to buy an island in the Mediterranean to temporarily house millions of refugees. Another real estate investor is working on the possibility of creating a new country, specifically for the displaced.
7. Misrepresenting the opinions of others is never helpful. If you believe you have a strong argument, make your argument. If you can only appear right by debating with your mischaracterization of someone else, then keep thinking about whether you're right. I see this happening lots of places. Some paint a less than accurate picture of the refugees who have come into Europe. Some use inflammatory language to prop up their views. Even the President did it today when he accused his political opponents of "being afraid of orphans and widows." Their opinion is slightly more robust than that. (please don't make this post about the President. It's not about him.)
8. Most issues are complex. If you think you can settle a debate with a 140 character slogan or a clever picture you made on your phone, you have undoubtedly failed to grasp the entire issue... You've probably completely missed the point. If you are making pronouncements about how foolish/evil/hateful someone else is because they aren't lock step in agreement with you, you might be the one in the wrong. If you don't have even a small sense of conflict in your soul about these issues, you might want to go back to the drawing board and rethink the whole thing.

8 Habits to Ensure a Successful Life

Benjamin Franklin said, "Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones."  Habits drive our behavior and our behavior drives our life. By creating a series of healthy habits in which to engage every day, you lay the groundwork to become the person you were created to be.

1. Every morning write the words, "I am a child of the king. He has purchased my freedom, ensured my adoption and commissioned me into His service." (if you don't like these words, create your own)

2. Every morning, devote at least fifteen minutes to uninterrupted reading of the Bible. Follow a systematic plan. Don't pause, don't take notes, don't overthink what you are reading. When you are done ask yourself, "So what should I do now?"

3. Every day, sometime during the day, give away a material item. It might be something you already home. It might be something you purchase specifically for someone else. It might be money.

4. Everyday, sometime during the day, ask someone a question about their success. Listen and learn.

5. Apologize at least once. (None of us have perfect days) Be sincere.

6. Thank at least three people. (None of us can do this on our own) Be genuine.

7. Before you go to bed, write a list of at least five ways in which you were blessed during the day. Add to the list three people who enhanced your life during the day.

8. As you fall asleep, envision at least one person into whose life you will make an investment tomorrow.

Whether you know it or not; You Are A Slave

"This letter is from Paul, a slave of Christ Jesus..." (Romans 1:1)

Slavery is an ugly word. Yet Paul embraces it, claiming it as his own identity.

All of us choose to enslave ourselves to something or someone. Whatever that thing is which controls us, is our slave master. Many are enslaved by the need for approval or acceptance. Many serve the master of popularity or social success. Some are chained to their desire for advancement and success. The list is long. We are all slaves to something.

Paul chose to be a slave of Jesus.

Following Jesus meant Paul would not be accepted. He would not receive approval. Following the true Jesus likely extinguishes the possibility of being popular. Jesus' full body of teaching is not socially acceptable. Jesus' followers are content to be last, not first. Success in Jesus kingdom is the polar opposite of success in this world.

We are all slaves to someone or something. Every master but one seeks to control us. Only Jesus came to save us.

To whom are you a slave?

7 Realities of Living in this Present World

Currently I'm preaching through 1 Peter. Central to this book is the idea that we are not citizens of this present world and our allegiance should be elsewhere. Below are seven thoughts from this Sunday's sermon...

1. You may not be a superhero, but if you are a child of God you have a secret identity. Although you live IN the world and AMONG the people of the world; you are a SECRET AGENT for the future Kingdom.
2. As a Secret Agent, you are tasked with living IN this present world but FOR the coming world.
3. In this present world, you are expected to submit to all authority.
4. Submission is not an indication of weakness, nor is it something that is forced on others (we are never commanded to force someone to submit). Submission IS an intentional decision we make to proactively turn ourselves over to someone else. We make the choice, not to exert our own power but to place ourselves under the power of someone else.
5. We submit so that everyone will know that Christians have no desire to subvert or seize authority in this present world. We can be model citizens/employees/students because we know that power in this world is temporal and not important.
6. Even if those in authority figures are evil, we submit. Remember, abuse in the present world only means rewards in the future kingdom.
7. The only exception is that we should not "obey" if asked to violate God's law. However, even our disobedience should be done with an attitude of submission; and we must remember that "righteous disobedience" does not come without consequences. Choosing to obey God rather than man might lead to persecution.

What would Jesus say to a pedophile?

On Monday, the Salon website ran an editorial entitled:

I'm a pedophile, but I'm not a monster.

(you can read it here.)

What is your initial reaction to this? Then, once you've grabbed your breath, what is your secondary reaction? Any different? More importantly, how do you think Jesus would respond to Todd Nickerson (the author of the story).

I'll be honest. My first thought was, "This isn't real. This is satire. It's a modern rendering of "A Modest Proposal." I even spent time googling the story to figure out if it was a joke. I don't think it is.

So I began trying to process what this means. More specifically, I asked myself the question, "How should Christ's church respond to a person like this? What does it mean for Christians to embrace someone who is sexually attracted to little children? (if you have little children, these questions take on a whole other dimension)"

We ALL have value and worth IN SPITE OF our sin.

Peter denied Christ, swearing a vow that he didn't know him. Still, Jesus commissioned Peter to lead the church IN SPITE OF his sin.

Jonah blatantly disregarded God's command to go to Nineveh. He chose to go the opposite direction. Still, God used Jonah to bring great revival to a massive city IN SPITE OF his sin.

Romans tells us that "while we were still sinners" Christ died for us. He chose to give His life for ours IN SPITE OF our sin.

My personal IN SPITE OF list is long. Jesus loves me in spite of my unfaithfulness to him, in spite of my anger, in spite of my lack of trust, in spite of my wandering, in spite of my stubbornness, in spite of my critical spirit, in spite of my...

We must not lose sight of the idea that our faith does not focus on sin. Our faith focuses on salvation. At the same time, we do not gloss over sin; we acknowledge it, confess it, repent of it, and leave it behind. I know it is no longer a popular sentiment, and is often derided as being insensitive, but the truth of "loving the sinner while rejecting the sin" is still true. In fact, this idea lies at the heart of Jesus' ministry.

THOSE WHO FOLLOW JESUS ARE CALLED TO LET GO

To the woman caught in adultery Jesus said, "I do not condemn you." And He said, "Go and sin no more."

To the rich young ruler Jesus said, "Follow me." And He said, "Sell your possessions."

To His followers, Jesus said, "Be my disciple." And He said, "Take up your cross."

In His parable about a great party, Jesus told of a master who invited everyone to be His guest. And He demanded they remove their own clothes and wear the new garments He had provided.

Jesus accepts everyone as they are. And Jesus changes everyone to be like him. Therefore, Jesus expects that those who follow him will let go of the things to which they cling most tightly. The apostles echoed this principle in the rest of the New Testament.

Writing to the church in Corinth, Paul instructed the believers to let go of their relationship with a man whose sexual immorality was destroying the purity of the church. Then, once the man had personally let go of the sin that held him back, Paul commanded the church to embrace him.

In Philippians, Christians are instructed to follow the example of Christ who was willing to let go of the status which was rightly His. Jesus' example was provided to illustrate the instruction to let go of our own desires for the good of others.

Following Christ requires us to let go of that which is most precious to us.

I am saddened that many Christians have believed a lie. They have bought the world's teaching that they don't need to let go. They believe they can embrace and cling to their own notions of themselves and still follow Christ. I wonder if this is the mindset of those who will be saved, but as if through the fire.

WHAT WOULD JESUS SAY TO TODD NICKERSON?

I think Jesus would welcome Todd into his arms. I think Jesus would affirm Todd as a person made in the image of God. I think Jesus would tell Todd that he loved him IN SPITE OF his sexual preference.

And I think Jesus would tell Todd to let go.

Who is more evil: Harry Potter or Frodo?

I originally posted this about 8 years ago. It still seems incredibly relevant to today. Enjoy a little light reading.

1. Both "heroes" have a fiercely loyal and slightly simple companion with reddish hair.
2. Grima Wormtongue and Peter Pettigrew (aka Wormtail?).
3. Most of the blonde elves look like Malfoys.
4. Magic.
5. Gimly and Hagrid are pretty much the same, except for a seven foot difference.
6. Nazguls and Dementors make the exact same sound.
7. Way too much wide-eyed, wistful staring into nothing by both Frodo and Harry.
8. Gollum or Dobby? You pick.
9. The ring is essentially a horcrux, isn't it?
10. Dumbledore and Gandolph look alike.

*Now watching LOTR III and realizing I should have added in another one. Big Spiders.

What To Do When Your Country Is Crashing Down Around You

This month I'm reading in Lamentations and last night I was back to chapter one. This is really a fascinating book as it is incredibly depressing, yet hopeful.

Jeremiah certainly wrote from a place of despair. The world he knew had ended. His agony and grief bleed across the pages. The most glorious city every built lay in ruins and for Jeremiah there was no hope of restoration or rebuilding.

Yet there is hope.

There is hope because Jerusalem was not the first city to be destroyed, neither would it be the last. Throughout the history of the world, great empires have risen and fallen. Today, on every continent, we can walk in the ruins of once great cities. The Mayans, the Incas, the Romans, the Persians and many more have come and gone. No kingdom lasts forever.

This doesn't sound hopeful?

Today's kingdoms will fall also. America is just a baby. At a little over 200 years old, we've been around a far shorter time than Israel or Judah lasted. But just as Jerusalem was decimated, so too will Washington fall. New York will falter. LA will fade into oblivion. This may not happen in our lifetime, but it will happen. It will someday be written of our kingdom:

How lonely sits the citythat was full of people!How like a widow has she become,she who was great among the nations!She who was a princess among the provinceshas become a slave.

Do you see the hope now?

Just as kingdoms fail, so will you! You'll live for 70 or 80 years if you do well, then you'll become worm food. All you've accomplished will be forgotten. All you've accumulated will rust. All you've done will crumble. Nothing we do lasts forever.

Yet, there's hope!

1 Peter 1 says that we have been born again into an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled and unfading. This inheritance is being kept in heaven for you, guarded by God the Father!

If your hope is in yourself, you'll be disappointed.
If your hope is in your abilities or accumulation or accomplishment, you'll be let down.
If your hope is in your country, you'll find it lacking.
If your hope is in a politician, you'll regret it.
If your hope is in a leader or a pastor or a celebrity, you'll be disenchanted.

Everything ends.

Except the kingdom of heaven.

Place your hope in the Lord. Invest yourself in his kingdom. Direct your time, your talent and your treasure toward that which truly matters and that which lasts forever.

Everyone Needs A Faithful Beagle In Their Life

This is something I wrote about 10 years ago. I still miss my beagle greatly. We have new dogs now, and they do the same thing as the beagle did...

For the last 30 minutes, I've been sitting at my dining room table working. My dog has been sitting at the door waiting for Marianne to get home. She did this last night as well. She just quietly sits there and waits.

I wonder if that is what God does for us sometimes? Just quietly sits and waits for us to come home...

What the Bible Actually Says About the Things God Loves

There has been much talk lately about the things that God HATES (the Bible does say there are some of them). I've also stumbled upon many conversations about what the Bible DOESN'T say about different issues.

It seems to me that it might be nice to spend some time thinking about what the Bible DOES say... particularly, what it says about the things God LOVES. Recently I came across this infographic which is all about the things God loves, specifically, the things the Bible says God loves. Check it out. It might surprise you what is not included, but it will certainly encourage you when you discover that you're included...

Discover more infographs at OVERVIEWBIBLE.COM

Sometimes Christians Need to Quit Their Jobs

Photo by NBC News

Kim Davis is the government worker in Kentucky who spent a night in jail because she refused to provide marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

My desire here is not to take sides or make political points, but rather to point out that sometimes our perspective as Americans might be different than our perspective as Christians. When that happens, my default is to choose my Christian perspective rather than my American perspective. How you respond... Is your choice.

As a Christian

If you claim to follow Christ, you regularly find yourself asking, "Will I be representing Jesus well if I do this...?" Sometimes the answer is an obvious "yes" or "no" and sometimes it is far less obvious.

If I were in Kim Davis' shoes my answer to this question might be different than hers.

There comes a time in many people's lives when they are forced to make difficult choices. Despite what Michelob light commercials might say, you can't have it all. You may not always be able to have your dream job AND live a God-honoring life.

Truth be told, many careers currently exist which a Christian should probably not pursue. Perhaps as society morphs and the values of our culture change, that list will grow. Perhaps it has already grown to include certain government positions.

Each of us must determine for ourselves whether we can excel in our career and in doing so represent Jesus well. If we cannot, it may be time for a necessary ending.

Here is where I think Kim Davis has missed the bigger point. There is a way for her to honor the law of the land and to remain faithful to God. It's not easy, but there is a way. She can resign. I completely understand that she has been put in an unfair position. It is a shame that she must make such a choice. But that is the choice she has.

She can choose to assert her rights and take up her case, or she can choose to follow her savior and take up her cross.

As An American

If I take my faith out of this, which I wouldn't choose to do. I would probably side with Kim Davis. As Americans, we usually choose to stand by one another even when we disagree. We are people welded together through compromise and deference. We find solutions rather than exclusions.

Unfortunately, this case was blown into a national feeding frenzy when it probably could have been solved at the local level. Given the opportunity, I'm sure the local officials could have found a way to allow Ms. Davis to honor her conscience while still providing the necessary services required by the law (for what it's worth, it isn't the law yet in Kentucky but it will be eventually).

Sometimes it is good and proper to raise national awareness and to prick the conscience of our population. But not always. Sometimes, we just need to give each other time and space and figure out how to live with one another in spite of our differing opinions.

My last statement is one that could be heeded by all sides of these present debates. Our search for solutions has not been comprehensive enough if we must rob one person of their civil rights in order to provide another with theirs.

4 For Friday: Everything You Need for a Super Awesome Weekend

AN INIQUITY LIST!

Who doesn't love a good list of sins, right? Maybe these aren't really sins, but this list of 13 Sins of a Dying Church is interesting. My guess is that every church will exhibit at least one of these characteristics. Very few will exhibit all of them.

http://www.malphursgroup.com/13-deadly-sins-of-a-dying-church/

USE YOUR HEAD, NOT YOUR HEART!

The Bible says the heart is deceitful and desperately wicked. "Following your heart" almost always leads to disaster. Wisdom is the foundation of the successful life, and a critical piece of the wise life is a choice to use your mind. Here are 4 Ways to get your gut to shut up and your brain to speak up when making decisions.

http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/248429

IF 10 COMMANDMENTS IS TOO MANY FOR YOU, FORGET ABOUT THIS LIST!

A list of 17 small habits to make you more productive seems a bit like overkill to me. However, some of the items on this list are great ideas to help you upgrade your life just a bit. Pick one or two and start developing a more healthy lifestyle.

http://time.com/3989246/small-productivity-habits/

PRODUCTIVITY IS OVER-RATED

If you aren't interested in being more productive, you'll enjoy these funny productivity graphs. Discover the real reasons you don't get done the things you want to get done.

http://www.trendhunter.com/trends/why-youre-not-productive

19 Ideas to Help You Let Go

I often talk about the necessary endings we all need to embrace if we are to grow. When we breathe, we must exhale before we inhale. Exhaling eliminates harmful toxins from our bodies and makes room for the new and fresh oxygen we need. In the same way, we must sometimes remove habits, relationships, expectations and more from our lives in order to make room for the fresh, new things God will do in us. 

Necessary Endings is one of the few books I recommend to everyone I know. You can buy it here.

We all have dead things in our lives which need to go away.

We all have unhealthy habits, patterns or imbalances which need to go away.

Sometimes we need to let go of good things so that we can make room for the best things.

Every rule has exceptions. Marriage is the exception to the rule of necessary endings.
Marriage is a covenant among two people and God.
Ending the marriage is almost never the best solution.
Ending unrealistic expectations or unhealthy patterns within the marriage may be the best solution.

Feelings and desires are unreliable guides when determining what is and is not necessary for life. 

If you "listen to your heart" you will never be able to let go of the things which are harmful to you.

Unwillingness to let go eventually becomes an inability to let go.

Inability to let go of something is an addiction.

Addiction is the road to destruction.

Jesus is the perfect example of letting go.

Even though He was God, He let go of His status so that He could come to earth and became a man.

Even though He was the creator, He let go of His authority so that He could give up His life as the payment for sin.

By letting go of everything, Jesus made room in eternity for everyone (including you).

In Revelation, all things are ended so that all things can be made new.

Every time we let go of something, we make room in our lives for something new and better.

A 5 Step Equation To Grow Your Wealth

Last Sunday was my last sermon on Proverbs. I'll miss those sermons as they were always so relevant and practical. Digging up the right application was easy, it just jumped off the page at you. I'll close this sermon series by posting some thoughts from today's proverb. Chapter 21 has much to say about wealth. These are five simple truths which will enable anyone to have more tomorrow than they do today.

Wealth doesn't just happen, it is the result of planning ahead.

Winning the lottery is a poor strategy for growing wealthy. Proverbs 21:5 says, "Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity." Set income goals and work hard to achieve them. Create spending guidelines and are disciplined enough to stay within them. Today may not be easy, but tomorrow will be secure.

Shortcuts rarely get you where you want to go.

The only people who get rich from "get rich quick schemes" are the original schemers. There are no shortcuts to wealth. About those who try to take shortcuts, Proverbs 21:5 says, "everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty." Plan ahead, work hard and be patient.

Deceptive practices always come back to bite you.

It might be tempting to fudge a little or tell a "white lie" here and there in order to get ahead. Although massaging the truth might prove effective for a while, the longer one weaves a web of deceit, the worse they are when the truth comes out. Proverbs 21:6 says, "A fortune gained by deceit is a fleeting vapor and a deadly snare." Honesty may set you back for a time, but in the end, it's the only way to stay ahead.

The pursuit of pleasure leads to poverty.

You've probably seen the stories of professional athletes who earn millions of dollars while they play then file for bankruptcy shortly after retirement. What happens to all that money? Proverbs 21:17 says, "He who loves pleasure will become a poor man." Self-control is the key to earning and retaining wealth. Learn to deny yourself immediate pleasure and you'll discover lasting contentment.

If you don't save for the future, you'll have nothing when you get there.

Our family socks away all our change. Every couple years, we pull out our change collection to help pay for vacation. We are always surprised at how much we have. Proverbs 21:20 says, "The wise store up choice food and olive oil, but fools gulp theirs down." Establish the discipline of consistently saving as much as you can. You'll be shocked down the road at what you've "earned."

16 Principles of Effective Communication

Pause before you speak to be certain you are using the right words at the right time with the right tone.

The right words are always true.

False words may provide temporarily feel good but they have no long-term benefit.

Some words are true but are not appropriate for every situation.

The truth and power of your words can be lost if your tone isn't helpful.

Every word you speak carries incredible potential.

Your words can be weapons of mass destruction.

Your words can be tools of monumental construction.

Kind words can encourage those who are unsure of their own ability.

Attractive words can empower those who are under-performing.

Pleasant words can heal wounds from the past.

In marriage, kind and gracious words are a deposit which builds a healthy marriage.

Angry and destructive words are withdrawals which bankrupt relationships.

Your children need to know that you are their biggest cheerleader.

Corrective words can be attractive if they are the right words at the right time with the right tone.

Use your words to encourage those around you and you'll find yourself being more encouraged than anyone.

These are taken directly from Proverb 16:24. "Kind words are like honey -- sweet to the soul and healthy for the body."

3 Habits to Help You Resist Temptation

Yesterday I talked about temptation. The primary point was that Contentment is the antidote for temptation. One idea I didn't get to talk about (time constraints) was the role discipline plays in our battle against temptation.

Discipline is not just punishment for wrong-doing. Discipline is the creation of positive habits which help to form us into the person we want to be (or that God created us to be!). The Apostle Paul wrote to Timothy:

"discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness."

Those who follow Christ should discipline themselves for the pursuit of godliness. These habits are God-centered disciplines. They are not me-centered. Our aim should not be self-centered but God-centered and Christ-exalting. When discipline becomes a measure of "how I am doing," it is no longer a spiritual discipline. The more we focus on honoring God and becoming Christ-like, the more victory we will have over temptation.

Below are three "spiritual disciplines" I would recommend to every Christian. These not only aid you in walking the path of life, they will provide the training you need to resist temptation when the time comes.

Bible Reading/Study

If we are to "discipline [ourselves] for the purpose of godliness" we have to know the God of Godliness. The way in which we know God is by His Word. He has given us direct information about His holiness, love, wrath, grace, mercy, patience, etc. If we are to know God and what it looks like to live in obedience to Him - we must read and study the Word.

This morning I'm waiting expectantly for an email from my bank. I hope it will give me instructions to help me solve a problem I've had with the on-line portal I use. Until I receive this email, I can't take any more steps to solve the problem.

I don't have to wait for anything from God. He has spoken, and He has given me everything I need to live for Him. The message God already sent is the Bible - the full and complete Words of God to us. If we are to be disciplined for the purpose of godliness we must read and study the Word.

Prayer

This discipline blows my mind. The very God of the universe who created everything and knows our days has provided a way in which we can communicate with Him. Philippians 4:6 says:

"do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God."

Why does Paul start by saying "do not be anxious about anything?" If we are pouring everything out to God in prayer (and trusting Him to hear), there is no need for anxiety. The open channel to communicate our needs, desires, fears and praises to the God of the universe should calm our deepest anxieties - and God has invited, actually, commanded that we pray.

Service

The natural response to the above should be service. As believers we are a body or a family of people. We were not saved by God to live in isolation. We are meant to be in relationships with each other. In the context of these relationships, we have the opportunity to serve.

1 Peter 4:10-11 says:

"As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace: whoever speaks, as one who speaks oracles of God; whoever serves, as one who serves by the strength that God supplies-in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong glory and dominion forever and ever."

New Christian or old Christian, it doesn't matter - you have gifts to use. If your intent is to "discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness," then you must be good stewards of God's grace by using what He has given you to serve Him by serving others.

Contentment is the antidote to temptation.
Contentment is cultivated by discipline.
Commit yourself to the discipline spiritual habits which will enable your growth and empower you to resist temptation.