Friday, December 16, 2011
A Dog's Life. Not So Bad After All
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
3 Things You Can Do to Exhale Every Night
Monday, December 12, 2011
Thankful for the Heart of Calvary
One thing I would like to do better is to end my days being thankful. So tonight, I want to give thanks for the heart of my brothers and sisters at Calvary. It is a blessing to be able to witness so many of my friends who are truly developing the heart of Jesus.
Over the past few years we have seen many wealthy and "important" people walk away from our church, but God has graciously sent people to replace them who may not be blessed financially, but who exhibit a rich love in their relationships with each other and a deep compassion for the world around them. After all, when he saw the widow give her two mites at the temple, Jesus reminded his followers that it was not the size of the offering that mattered, but rather it is the heart of the giver.
Over the past few days I have a great opportunity to repeatedly see people exhibiting the heart of a joyful giver.
Today, we had people coming to our building all day (as late as 8pm tonight) to pick up gifts for delivery to children as part of project angel tree.
Someone dropped off a coat today because they wanted to make a contribution to our teen's local warming project (which they are doing for the second year in a row).
I'm privileged to be part of a LIFEgroup which adopts several families every year to provide clothes, gifts, and food for the holidays.
I was approached yesterday after first service by a lady who desired information about getting involved in our monthly supper house ministry.
A recent new attenders at our church has been purchasing books for radio bible class and making them available for free. People are taking them all each week!
I can't remember the last Sunday I've been at Calvary when so many people have expressed love and gratitude to me as did this week.
Our church's children modeled intergenerational ministry as they spent their Sunday School hour having a bingo party with our Keenagers.
I was approached this weekend by two different people who have a heart for connecting people and want to launch new LIFEgroups.
To cap it off, on a day when our church united, despite a concerted effort to divide the congregation, to approve next year's budget; our people gave one of the largest offings of the year* (over $10,000 more than our average giving)!
I could go on. If you want to see more, check out our facebook page to see the rich love being shared there on a regular basis! I am truly thankful to be part of a church full of people with such big hearts!
*this is especially amazing because the second Sunday of the month is almost always one of our lowest offerings of the month.
Please Pray for a Dear Friend and a Great Man
Please pray for him, Dena Stevens McGoldrick, and their children Paige and Parker. Patrick posted this yesterday:
After a few months of strange symptoms, many doctor’s visits and tests, I need to share with you that I have recently been diagnosed with ALS or Lou Gehrig’s Disease. The doctors are 100% convinced that this is what I have. There is no cure for ALS. ALS is a serious neurological disease that causes muscle weakness and eventually leads to complete deterioration. The speed and path varies from person to person, but the average life expectancy is two years.
Obviously, this is not what I had planned, nor what I would have ever dreamed would happen to me. But there is another side to the story. God is sovereign and in control. Isaiah 6 is a passage that I preached here many years ago and Bob preached it last month. I take that truth that “King Jesus” is seated on His throne as ruler and has authority of my life. He also will give us strength as we go through this journey.
A song that has blessed my soul in this past week is written ultimately by God, through Job and passed down to Matt Redman. That song is “Blessed be the name of the Lord.” I want to live that out!!
We love you so much and appreciate you so much. Our lives have been blessed because of you! Thank you for your prayers.
Control the Thing You Can Control
This morning I was reading in Psalm 119. I noticed across the page, I had scribbled some notes a while back so I looked to see what I had written. Psalm 116:10-11 were underlined. They read:
I believed in you, so I said
"I am deeply troubled, LORD"
In my anxiety I cried out to you,
"These people are all liars!"
In the margin, I wrote:
"I cannot control what others do, I can control whether or not I take it to God."
True.
Friday, December 9, 2011
The Beatles, Mary, and When Peace Like a River...
Thursday, December 8, 2011
5 Lists of 3. Simplifying the Process of Spiritual Formation

- Teach Biblical Content
- Encourage Spiritual Disciplines
- Empower Christlike Mission
- Partnering for growth together
- Serving the church together
- Engaging the world together
- Be a disciple
- Be invitational
- Be missional
- Leave Life (for Christ's)
- Live Life (of obedience)
- Give Life (for others)
- Obey
- Love
- Bear Fruit
Thursday, November 17, 2011
9-9-9: Food
- Fried Chicken
- Olive-Loaf Bologna
- Shrimp
- Prime Rib
- Fried Okra
- Frozen Twinkies
- Bacon
- Oreo Creme
- Cheese
- Eggs
- Rice
- Gravy
- Baked Beans
- Liver
- Fettuccine Alfredo
- Beets
- Cottage Cheese
- Prunes
- Toe Cheese
- Leech Sushi
- Goiter Gravy
- Skunk Stew
- Earwig Crunch
- Cream-of-Cyst Soup
- Deep-Fried Larva
- Autumn Leaf Salad
- Chocolate Covered Scabs
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
9-9-9: Places
9 Places I've Lived
- Sherman Manor
- Clare, MI
- Covington, KY
- Brock West
- Cedarville, OH
- Muskegon,MI
- Marlboro Road
- Huntington, WV
- Perry, MI
9 Places I've Visited
- Disney World
- Cape Cod
- Outer Banks, NC
- Mammoth Cave
- Ford Field
- Savannah, GA
- Field of the Wood
- Niagara Falls
- Hilton Head, SC
9 Places I'd Like to Go
- The Superbowl
- St. Andrews
- Grand Canyon
- Anfield
- Anywhere Warm
- Philadelphia
- Ireland
- Augusta National
- Seattle
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
9-9-9: SPORTS
1. Michigan State Spartans2. Detroit Tigers3. Detroit Lions4. Liverpool FC Reds5. Detroit Red Wings6. Sailor Soccer7. Cedarville Yellowjackets8. Detroit Pistons9. Cincinnati Reds
1. Notre Dame Fighting Irish2. Chicago Bears3. Minnesota Twins4. Colorado Avalanche5. Manchester United Red Devils6. Green Bay Packers7. Chicago White Sox8. Dallas Cowboys9. New York Yankees
1. Steve Yzerman2. Barry Sanders3. Lou Whitaker4. Steve Smith (MSU basketball)5. John Stockton/Karl Malone6. Greg Maddox7. Isaiah Thomas8. Brandon Inge9. Andy Pettitte
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Saturday, November 12, 2011
Today's Pictures. Plus, Stuff I Like

Following are a couple links to stuff I like. Feel free to leave comments at the end...
Friday, November 11, 2011
Thursday, November 10, 2011
Three Stages of Pastoral Ministry
1. "Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord"2. "By whose authority do you do these things?"3. "Crucify him!"
Community Service vs. Community Transformation

Friday, November 4, 2011
5 More Clues to Being a Super-Star Parent

Don't waste words. Don't add a lot of apologies or unnecessary detail that make you look timid.Don't threaten.Be clear about expectations. When you tell someone, especially a child, how to behave or what to do, make sure you both are very clear about what you expect.Be clear about consequences, particularly if your expectations involve an area with which that child has struggled in the past.Take clear, decisive action. . . .
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
5 Habits That Keep You From Being Content
- Constantly criticizing people
- Blaming other people for your failures
- Dreaming about other successful people
- Not taking the extra step to get closer to your goal
- Letting other people make decisions for you
Monday, October 31, 2011
Go And Sin No More...Starting RIGHT NOW!

...I spend a fair amount of time talking to people who are simultaneously feeling convicted of their sins and yet not quite ready to give them up, either. Come to think of it, most of us probably fit into this category in one way or another, even if our sinful indulgences may outwardly appear to be "lesser" somehow than those of, say, a prostitute or a heroin addict.On the one hand, sinful behavior has brought tremendous suffering into our lives, typically in multiple categories: spiritual, emotional, financial, physical and relational. And yet, it is more often true than not that we are actively maintaining "differing kingdom allegiances" and will try - against all reason and sanity - to maintain a "bridge" of sorts to our destructive, sometimes deadly "pleasures" while keeping one foot in God's kingdom...or so we thinkAny willingness on our part to maintain roads, bridges or other safe passages to a preferred lifestyle of sin, folly and rebellion against the living God is the clearest-possible outward sign that we have not (as of yet) fully surrendered our lives to the lordship of Christ.Battling back against longterm sin does not normally take place in moments of high drama and riveting action. True repentance, it turns out, most often shows up in those unremarkable moments when we choose to take a different route home from work, decline an invitation from an old friend or give up control of our Saturday evening to an accountability partner.
Friday, October 28, 2011
Who's Up For a Good Old Fashioned Stoning?
1. It does not teach that sin is okay. Jesus never excused or condoned the woman's sin.2. It does not teach that the law is obsolete. Jesus never said the law didn't apply to this situation.3. It does not teach that we should not point out sin. Jesus never condemned the Pharisees for accusing the woman of adultery.4. It does not teach that sin does not have consequences. Jesus' mercy did not eliminate the relational and familial consequences of the woman's sin.5. It does not teach that organized religion is bad. I wish I didn't even have to point that one out.
Top Ten Venn Diagrams of All Time?

Platypus = Awesomeness.
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Is It Okay for God to Punish People for Sin?
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people."
There was a man who constructed his dream house. He poured all his resources into the house, and in the end it was a beautiful creation. The house was designed perfectly for the man and his family. Then he went away on a journey.Before he left, he hired a caretaker for his house. "You are to represent me in this house," he said, "and when I return, there will be a room for you to live with us."However, when the man returned, he found his house destroyed. The caretaker had abused the house, using it for his own pleasure and desires. He had ignored the instructions of the owner, and he and his friends had rendered the house uninhabitable for the owner and his family.So the man destroyed the house, and re-created it. He lived there with his family. But he threw the caretaker out, and had him arrested, and prosecuted him to the full extent the law would allow.
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
How To Be the Perfect Parent
1. Teach kids to be self-sufficient.
2. Teach older kids to help with the younger kids.
3. Teach them to solve problems.
4. Show them how to be passionate.
5. Play with them outside, and be active.
6. Don’t overschedule.
7. Don’t dote.
8. Dance.
9. Read with them, and read in front of them.
10. Be inquisitive.
He Is a Fool Who Knows Not How to Respond to Criticism
Marianne and I were talking today about how easy it is for a person who is “simple” (read about the wise, simple, fool, and mocker in Proverbs) to become a fool if influenced by the wrong people. While thinking about our discussion I sketched out this chart, and was reminded midway through of how often Proverbs stresses our response to correction. If you want to become wise, learn how to respond appropriately to correction.
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All We Are Saying... Is Give Tim Tebow a Chance!
Tim Tebow started his fourth NFL game yesterday. He’s won two of the four starts. There are some NFL fans who would give an arm and a leg for a starting quarterback who wins 50% of his games (ahem: I’m looking at us, Lion’s fans).
By any measurement, his game yesterday was dismal. He was bad in every aspect of the game. For 55 minutes, he very effectively kept his team from winning. But then, as the clock ran down, he put it together. He rallied his team, and in overtime, they were victorious.
By the only measurement that matters, his game yesterday was 100% effective. As Herman Edwards said, “You play to win the game.” The opponent was bad, the game was certainly not pretty, the defense really deserves a lot of credit; but Denver got the win, and Tebow was their leader!
Yet…
I’ve never heard so many “experts” pile on a player for being “terrible”, than I have heard talking about Tebow last night and this morning.
(Disclaimer: I AM a Broncos fan. I do want Tebow to succeed because I want Denver to succeed; however, I really never cared for him in college)
The talking heads on ESPN have spent most of last night and this morning pontificating on what a terrible game he played, and how this is definitive proof that Tebow will never make it in the NFL. Why?
Why are these guys so quick to denounce a guy who has only played 4 games? Have they forgotten Steve Young’s career in Tampa Bay? Have they forgotten Payton Manning’s first season in Indianapolis? Have they forgotten Doug Flutie and Warren Moon who had to start their careers in Canada? Why is Tim Tebow being written off after four games?
The answer is simple… These guys spent so much time decrying Tebow before he ever entered the league, that if he does succeed they will all be shown to be foolish. No one ever entered the league under more criticism, and so the media experts have never had so much at stake in seeing someone fail.
So what? Why am I writing about this today?
Because I see people make this same mistake in life ALL THE TIME. They make a judgment about another person (often times an unfounded judgment) and then they spend the rest of their lives justifying that judgment. They are absolutely unreasonable in the conclusions they draw, in the way they massage the truth, and in their interpretation of what they observe. Sadly, the result is a steep descent into bitterness, hatred, and eventually depression.
Be careful. Whatever conclusion you reached yesterday may need to be reconsidered today. Remember 1 Corinthians 13. Love hopes all things. Don’t stick people in a box, don’t stick yourself in a box. Give the people who have offended you a chance to surprise you. You may find yourself on the receiving end of a beautiful friendship.
The King Who Brings Freedom Deserves the Throne
(if you know nothing about Lord of the Rings, this post will likely not make any sense to you. Come back tomorrow. If you know a little about it, or have seen the movies, you’ll be okay.)
The final movie of the Lord of the Rings Trilogy is The Return of the King. The movie has about four endings (more if you get the DVD with extras). One of the moments that feels like it is the end of the movie is the coronation of Aragorn as King of Gondor. After three movies of seeing him lead the Men of the West in countless battles and skirmishes, it’s almost a relief to see him finally receive his crown.
Imagine, though, that the movie ended differently. How would you feel about the movie if after he led Rohan to victory at Helm’s Deep, and after he repulsed Sauron’s invading horde, and after he inspired the victory at the gates of Mordor; imagine if after all this, the people of Gondor just asked him to leave.
“Thanks for the work, Aragorn. We’ve decided to just continue being ruled by the house of Denethor.”
Aragorn was the rightful king of Gondor. He was the delivering king who had long been prophesied. He suffered mightily on their behalf, both in battle and in love. How disappointing would it have been, after all he endured to have been denied the throne of the people he had just saved?
That is what we do to Jesus every time we seize control of our lives.
He suffered and died to purchase our freedom. How can we not let him sit on the throne of our lives? How can we not submit our lives to His rule?
Monday, October 24, 2011
Resolving Conflict: Squashing Rumors 2
5 Ways to Let Go of a Grudge
3 Steps to Being a Peacemaker
5 Questions to Help Evaluate Yourself
6 Roadblocks That Shut Down Communication
Squashing Rumors
1. Don't defend yourself against a rumor unless the originator of the rumor is there.2. Don't ask someone else about a rumor unless you have the originator of the rumor with you.3. BY ALL MEANS, don't pass along a rumor... under ANY circumstances.
All the Posts in This Series:
5 Ways to Let Go of a Grudge
3 Steps to Being a Peacemaker
5 Questions to Help Evaluate Yourself
6 Roadblocks That Shut Down Communication
Squashing Rumors
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Resolving Conflict: Squashing Rumors

5 Ways to Let Go of a Grudge
3 Steps to Being a Peacemaker
5 Questions to Help Evaluate Yourself
6 Roadblocks That Shut Down Communication
- Correct the error immediately
- Tell the truth to the person telling the rumor
- Determine the source of the rumor (where did it come from?)
- Determine the spread of the rumor (who else has heard it?)
- Go to the source and stop it (by correcting the error and telling the truth)
- Go to the spread and confront it (by correcting the error and telling the truth)
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Resolving Conflict: 6 Roadblocks That Shut Down Communication

5 Ways to Let Go of a Grudge
3 Steps to Being a Peacemaker
5 Questions to Help Evaluate Yourself
Friday, October 21, 2011
Resolving Conflict: Five Questions to Help Evaluate Yourself

- Is this about Christ?
- Does the Bible speak clearly and specifically about this?
- Does a clear and specific Biblical principle apply to this?
- Do any Biblical passages or principles apply here?
- Do you believe you are acting in clear obedience to God on this issue?
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Resolving Conflict: 3 Steps To Being a Peacemaker
All the Posts in This Series:
5 Ways to Let Go of a Grudge
5 Questions to Help Evaluate Yourself
6 Roadblocks That Shut Down Communication
Squashing Rumors
Squashing Rumors 2
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Resolving Conflict: 5 Ways to Let Go of a Grudge
- He thinks the worst, and therefore reaches a wrong conclusion about Abner (vs.25)
- In an effort to justify himself, he slanders and misrepresents Abner to David (vs.25)
- He plots and carries out violence against Abner (vs.27)
- In the process of destroying Abner, he rallies the support of others thereby including them in his sin (vs.30)
- Always hope for the best. David continued to hope and believe the best about Saul right til the end. The best way to feed a grudge is to remind yourself how you’ve been wronged. The best way to starve a grudge is to tell yourself the good things another person has done. 1 Corinthians 13 says, “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” If we want to release a grudge we must be willing to believe the best and to hope for the best.
- Don’t jump to conclusions. One of the most common reasons feuds between people grow out of control is that people reach wrong conclusions about one another. It is very easy to conclude that once someone has wronged you, they are going to continue to do so. Therefore, people often find themselves assuming wrong motivations in others regardless of what the truth may be. If we granted others the same amount of grace we give ourselves, we would rarely arrive at wrong conclusions about them.
- Don’t build your case to others. The harder you work to convince your friends that someone is evil, the more likely it is that you will have to slander and assault their character in ways that go beyond what is right and appropriate. Through everything Saul did, David continued to refer to him as the “Lord’s anointed.” He refused to build a case against Saul, even to his closest friends. Once you have built a case against someone, you will have a very difficult time dropping that grudge.
- Be slow to act. Very little good comes out of acting hastily, especially when you are responding to hurt or insult. Breathe. Pray. Count. Do whatever you need to do in order to slow down the flesh and empower the Spirit. James said we should be SLOW TO ANGER. Once you act quickly on a grudge, you have irrevocably changed a relationship that may not have needed the change. Take your time.
- If you must, suffer silently. David retreated into the wilderness rather than fighting Saul. Jesus offered up no defense in his trial. When you choose to suffer silently, you are in good company. And if you are willing to embrace Christ in the depth of your hurt, He will provide you with all you need so that you can release the anger and hatred that drags you down.
All the Posts in This Series:
3 Steps to Being a Peacemaker
5 Questions to Help Evaluate Yourself
6 Roadblocks That Shut Down Communication
Squashing Rumors
Squashing Rumors 2
Understanding Spiritual Formation Conclusion: More You and Less of Me
- Disciplines of Scripture. God’s Word is to be a light to our path. It should illuminate the direction of our life. Adding Scripture to our daily routine is a powerful way to provide more of Jesus in our life. Ideas for engaging the Bible include reading, studying, meditating, memorizing, or even listening on CD or MP3. Whichever method or methods you choose, the key is consistency.
- Disciplines of Prayer. We never pray enough. Paul encouraged the early Christians to pray continuously. We always have room to pray more. Remembering the purpose of these disciplines is to bring more of Jesus into our lives, we should design our times of prayer to be more focused on Jesus’ agenda than on our own desires and requests.
- Disciplines of Service. When Jesus wanted to demonstrate to his disciples how to truly love one another, he washed their feet. He found a very practical need they had, a need most people wouldn’t have been willing to address; and he took action to meet the need. All around you are people with significant needs just waiting to be met. Being more like Jesus means learning to see others with Jesus’ eyes. Setting aside time on a daily basis to look for and meet other’s needs is a powerful way to have more of Jesus in your life.
- Disciplines of Abstinence. The most common type of abstinence for Christians is fasting. Often we equate fasting with going hungry. Certainly, the majority of contexts for fasting are food related. Even hospitals use the term “fast” when they tell you not to eat before a procedure. However, abstaining for a Christian can entail much more than just food. Giving up something of value causes an emptiness and a longing. Sometimes the emptiness is momentary, other times it may be on-going. During these times when we are most acutely aware of the thing we have given up, we are reminded to turn our attention to God, remembering that He desires to have complete control over our lives and that He can fill the emptiness in our lives. Sometimes denying ourselves the pleasures of life can be a powerful reminder of our need for God.
- Disciplines of Silence. Some very devout Christians have taken long term vows of silence as a sign of their devotion to Christ. While their self-denial is certainly admirable, nowhere in the Bible are their suggestions we should never talk. However, I once saw on the side of a Starbucks cup the words, “It is impossible to listen while your mouth is open to talk”. Sometimes less of us means fewer words and more listening. Setting aside a time to simply be quiet and listen for God can be a great time of spiritual growth. These times can be five minutes or five hours, depending on who you are and what your life options provide.
- Disciplines of Sacrifice. Giving away something you love or need is never easy. However, when someone is willing to give away something they love or need for your sake, you are usually moved by their care for you. When we are willing to regularly give our things away so we can make ourselves less, we are opening ourselves to be filled by God. Sacrifice can be financial, material, and emotional. Sacrifice may even be the giving away of our time or our energy.
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Understanding Spiritual Formation 7: A Parable About Disciplines
Monday, October 17, 2011
Understanding Spiritual Formation 6: Introduction to Spiritual Disciplines
the Christian life is not to be lived in solitude. it is to be lived in community. therefore, any individual activity must find its significance within the community, not simply as a "boost" for someone's "personal walk".
"What is a discipline? A discipline is an activity within our power, something we can do, which brings us to a point where we can do what we at present cannot do by direct effort. Discipline is in fact a natural part of the structure of the human soul, and almost nothing of any significance in education, culture, or other attainments is achieved without it."
- meditation
- prayer
- fasting
- study
- simplicity
- solitude
- submission
- service
- confession
- worship
- guidance
- celebration
- solitude and silence
- fasting
- scripture meditation
- service and sacrifice to the community
- witness to the world.
Understanding Spiritual Formation 5: The Discipline of Community (continued)
"one who wants more than what Christ has established does not want Christian brotherhood. He is looking for some extraordinary social experience which he has not found elsewherel he is bringing muddled and impure desires into Christian brotherhood. Just at this point Christian brotherhood i threatened most often at the very start by the greatest danger of being poisoned at its root, the danger of confusing Christian brotherhood with some wishful idea of religious fellowship."
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Understanding Spiritual Formation 4: The Discipline of Community
But Jesus was/is most interested in seeing the Spirit form you through your relationships with others. Before he promised the Spirit, Jesus commanded his disciples to “Love one another.”
Understanding Spiritual Formation 3: Celebration as a Spiritual Discipline
- They should be triumphant -- The greatest truth of all is that good has/will triumph over evil. In the Matrix trilogy, the scene of celebration at Zion gives us a feel for anticipatory triumph. Our celebrations should awaken in us a moving sense of the transcendence of God, and of our anticipation of His ultimate victory.
- They should be meaningful -- The truths which bind us together should be proclaimed in a relevant way so that our celebration is informed. Some churches are so taken with the celebration itself that it has become disconnected from any meaning... this almost feels like idolatry.
- They should be participatory -- We are all celebrating, we are all the community. I think of a pep rally for my MSU Spartans. Even though we may all be sitting in rows, we will be extraordinarily participatory. Why don't our celebrations look like pep rallys?
- They should be reflective -- The truths we celebrate have particular meaning for us. We should constantly be weaving our story into the fabric of the communities truths. This requires honest reflection. We do a great disservice to ourselves when we celebrate without reflection.